2017 AMBITION: NO MORE RESOLUTIONS!
Setting a fresh start to 2017, I have decided to set ambitions, not resolutions.
I find resolutions annoying: they convey some level of guilt. They feel boring, heavy, and they drag us down. They make us feel even worse when we don’t respect them – which we usually don’t. That’s because they inherently carry the negative perception that we are not doing well enough… But what if we focused on our strengths, our purpose and what we truly love? I think things could feel quite different.
I like the word ambition, and especially for women. I think both worlds match very nicely, even if this new relationship is still not truly widely accepted. In that respect, I am very glad to see emerge a new think-tank on “Women and Ambition” within PWN, which I hope to support in the coming months. Ambition carries energy, direction and drive. Not guilt… or at least it shouldn’t.
By choosing “ambitions” over “resolutions”, I am not saying that I don’t need to improve in many aspects of my life, or as a person. Naturally, there is room for improvement. But I do think that we, as women, need to shift the way we judge our (under)performance, (in)competence and (un)effectiveness. We also need to stop trying to please everyone and be perfect lovers, wives, mothers and leaders. It fact, I think we should just stop believing we can be wonder women – and thus be eternally frustrated – and truly focus on being wonderful women, which we already are!